Most of us live our lives mistakenly believing that every thought we have is real. This just is not true.
Our thoughts are like the rudder on a ship they direct our lives in the direction they think we want to go.
Sometimes we pass through choppy sees sometimes it’s calm, but it’s all driven by our thoughts.
Our experience of life comes from the inside out, not what happens to us but rather by what we think about what happens to us.
I was once told I don’t have a lack of self confidence I just think I do.
This was like an enlightment for me, all of those years believing I had no self confidence, when actually it was just me thinking I had no self confidence. In fact you could add that to esteem, self worth, and any other negative feeling I used to get.
If it was true I had no self confidence, how come I spent 10 years as a holiday rep, away from home, working with people I had never met before and dealing daily with holiday makers hoteliers and on the problems that happen on holiday. How can someone with no self confidence do all that not to forget the singing and dancing on caberet night and entertaining bus loads of holiday makers on tours. All of this done with no self confidence, it just doesn’t add up, yet on the inside that’s how I felt.
Another example I can use is this, I’ve moved house twice in the last 12 years, the first move was a nightmare, this is when I believed in my thoughts, they told me it was going to go all wrong and it certainly did, I’ve never been so stressed and anxious in the days both leading up to and after that first house move. But, and here’s the strange thing about this, nothing actually went wrong, no disasters actually occurred, in fact now I recall it with a mind that is now far more calmer I realise that everything that went wrong went wrong in my head. It was the inside out catastrophic thinking that caused the feeling of it going wrong.
Now I still get good days and bad days just like we all do, the difference now is I understand that all I’m experiencing is my thinking, I also recognise if I ignore a thought and chose not to follow it a new one will replace it.
Going back to that rudder steering the ship through life’s High seas the journey can be changed just by steering a new course just the same as in our lives our journey can be changed by waiting for the right thought to come along.
If your having a bad time at the moment ask yourself what you are thinking and has any of it actually come true.
Have a peaceful day